Relationship: How To Know You Are In A Wrong Relationship
Unfortunately, Some young people have been entangled in an undefined relationship.
Some people have wasted their time and efforts investing in a relationship that eventually hit the rock.
There are signs to look out for in any wrong relationship. There is no failed relationship today, that did not show these signs before they failed.
I am going to show you those signs in this blog post.
God is a loving father who does not take delight in wasting the time of His children.
He said to the Israelites to leave when they were wasting their time, staying too long at mountian Horeb.
He authoritatively told them to leave the place because they had stayed too long on that mountain (Deut 1: 6-7).
Till today, God still speaks to people to leave any relationship that can waste their time. And any friendship that is parasitic to them.
Listen now, because through me, the Holy Spirit is about to minister to you. He will show you;
How To Know You Are In A Wrong Relationship
• Relationship That Produces Frequent Conflict
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Every relationship that is not solidly based on shared goals, beliefs and vision will continually spring up frequent conflict.
It is not possible for both parties to enjoy their friendship if there is no agreement in their basic values.
You will know that you are in a wrong relationship when it turns to a battlefield one. Don’t be surprised when your partner engages you in a physical battle.
If you do not leave this kind of relationship, you may harm yourself. A wrong association will definitely produce endless conflict.
One can easily sense the absence of love as the people involved fight ignorantly over trivial issues.
Any association that constantly produce conflict or dispute is not the best the relationship. It shows how bad such association is.
Although, two people can disagree over certain issues but they are to solve it amicably.
And this should happen once in a while. But if this is constant, and always lead to physical battle. Such friendship is awfully wrong.
• Relationship That Has Deceit As Its Hallmark
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
Anything built on deceit will not endure the test of time. There is no association or relationship that can enjoy stability with lies.
Wrong relationship will produce lies, cheating on one another and hiding under guise to dupe one another.
When there is no truth in the relationship anymore, the love that binds the people involved will plummet.
Samson was taken and dealt with by his enemies because whom he perceived to be his lover, Delilah dealt with him deceptively.
Honestly, there was no way Samson would have been handed over to his enemies.
If his lover had told Samson that she had been sent to hand him over to the Philistines.
More so, they would have fought the battle together if there was truthfulness in that friendship.
That’s the power of openness and truthfulness. Avoid any relationship that is founded on lies. It is a wrong association.
Whether you like it or not, you guys are not going to make it work like that.
When God detected deceit in Lucifer, he sent him away from His presence (Isaiah 14:12-15).
Because God knew no good will come out of their relationship once there was a deceitful thought in Lucifer.
Above all, you know a wrong relationship by the level of its deceit. Deceit is also a principal sign of parasitic friendship.
• Relationship That Provides No Support
Ecclesiastes 4:10,12And if one prevail against him, TWO SHALL WITHSTAND HIM; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
For if they fall, THE ONE WILL LIFT UP HIS FELLOW: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
Definitely, a good friendship provides a solid support for those involved in it.
For instance, when two people are in a relationship.
And one runs into huge debt, the other is supposed to help his/her partner. He should not be someone who leaves when there is trouble.
A wrong friendship/association is the one that is void of help. You cannot know how much people love you unless you have a problem.
Those people who love you will stand by you, both in the time of trouble and in the time of wealth.
While those who are parasitic in nature will come when things are fine. And they will abscond you during the time of trouble.
Anyone you are in a relationship with that doesn’t raise you whenever you fall is not the best person to associate with.
An association that does not provide help, support and aid is a wrong one.
• Only Sex
No human being is created to function only as a sex tool alone. If you are in a relationship that has not resulted in marriage. But your partner keeps pressurizing you for sex.
My friend, you are in a wrong relationship. Sex is to be done in marriage.
Additionally, it is not supposed to be between those who are not legally married.
Maybe, your partner has been using you sexually. He doesn’t see any thing good in you than to have sex with you. You are in a wrong association.
How on earth will you allow someone you are not married to, to frequently have sex with you? Are you a prostitute?
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Bed undefiled? There should be no sex until you guys are married. I’m sorry! But that’s what the Bible says.
Leave that wrong friendship that is solely based on lust and practice that is not biblical.
• Abram parted his ways with Lot when there was quarrel (Genesis 13:8-9).
Afterwards, Abraham grew to become mighty and blessed (Gen 24:1).
If you leave that wrong friendship that produces frequent dispute. The Lord will personally bless you and you’ll be great.
• True friendship is all about being supportive. Supportive association increases the bond of its participants.
• If you don’t leave a wrong relationship, you will be negatively affected beyond measure.
• Wrong relationship is the tool the devil uses to weaken great men and leave them with indelible scars. Avoid bad group.
• Deceit is the hallmark of a bad relationship. If there is existence of deceit, evil is not far.
• No good friendship should be solely based on sexual pleasure.
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