How To Render Anger Useless In Your Life
Anger is an emotional outburst which is usually stirred up by frustration. Anger may make one take costly and destructive decisions.
More so, research shows that diseases could be emanated from anger.
Diseases such as kidney stone, gallbladder trouble, arthritis, colitis, blood pressure and heart attack etc.
No angry man or woman enjoys himself at the moment of anger. Anger is not a good emotional trait believers should exhibit.
In this article, by the help of the Holy Ghost, I have developed four powerful ways to suppress anger.
Four Ways To Deal With Anger
Anger Solution 1
• Be Slow To Speak
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, SLOW TO SPEAK, SLOW TO WRATH.
Most of the time we get angry, we listen to respond, we don’t listen to understand.
It is not every time you respond to every word people utter towards you. Listening to respond will make you flare up easily.
But when you listen to understand what someone is saying.
You will know how to respond without flaring up. Luke 23:9 says concerning Jesus, when Herod questioned him that;
“Then he questioned with him in many words; but HE ANSWERED NOTHING.”
If you really want to overcome anger; you must learn to be slow to speak.
At times, you may need not to respond to that person at the time he/she speaks to you.
For example, when someone says something that gets you angry. Just look at him and don’t say anything.
Why? If you say anything at that time.
You may make statement you may live to regret that you uttered. The truth is, words are like eggs.
Once they fall, to gather all fragments after the fall is absolutely impossible.
To deal with anger, learn to be slow to speak. Be like Jesus who responded to his enemies only when it was necessary.
Additionally, whenever you are angry don’t utter any word.
If your wife says something that makes you angry. Say nothing to her at that point.
Anger Solution 2.
• Forgive The Person That Made You Angry
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Whoever makes you angry, deserves your forgiveness.
Why? If you do not forgive that person, the anger you have towards him/her will not be subdued.
Forgiveness is a gift to give to the person who has provoked you to anger.
Honestly, if you really want to overcome anger. Just learn to forgive.
There are some people who claimed to be believers, yet they find it difficult to forgive people.
One of the fruits of new nature of Christ is forgiveness.
Those soldiers who tortured, beat and dealt with Jesus, received Jesus forgiveness.
Jesus prayed to his father that He should forgive them for their ignorance.
You might be free from anger, if you genuinely forgive the person who made you angry. Forgive that man! Forgive that woman!
Sincerely, if you forgive someone, you haven’t done a favour to that person. You have only done yourself a favour.
Yes, forgive people and be free from anger. If you fail to forgive. Then, anger continues. But, I’d implore you to forgive.
• Believe You Are Nothing
But made himself of no reputation, and TOOK UPON HIM THE FORM OF A SERVANT, and was made in the likeness of men:
It was so easy for Jesus to endure the reproach from men on the cross because he considered himself to be nothing.
Again, he was unable to get angry at those who vilified and lampooned him because he took the form of a servant.
You will continue to flare up at the slightest level of provocation if you see yourself as someone important.
Proud people get angry easily because they are untouchable in their own eyes.
Any time people make you angry, take up the form of a servant who has to endure trepidation.
Believe me, men will make you angry. Some people will intentionally want to get you angry. Just rid yourself of bossy attitude.
For instance, as a pastor, I must realise the fact that I am the servant of the living God.
So, whenever I go out for evangelism and people abuse me.
I should not get angry because I have taken upon me the form of a servant.
That’s how it should be. Servant must endure. So, endure.
Therefore, to overcome anger, see yourself as nothing.
• Do Not Take Any Decision When You Are Angry
Please read this passage carefully;
Genesis 4:5-8And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen? If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him. And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and SLEW HIM.
But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And CAIN WAS VERY ANGRY,AND HIS CONTENANCE FELL.
What made Cain angry? His offering was not accepted by God. But his brother’s offering was accepted by God.
However, this anger made Cain to take a costly decision. He had to kill his own brother, Abel. He took that decision when he was angry.
See, if anyone makes you angry now, don’t take any decision now. If your son provokes you now, don’t throw anything at him now.
My friend, if you are not careful at the time your son makes you angry. You may find yourself pelting your son with stones.
By this, the stone may hit him in the eye. Don’t take decision when you are angry. If you do, you may regret your decision.
It is biblical that we shouldn’t refrain rod from our children.
But if you beat your child in anger, you may kill him/her. If you beat him in fierce anger, you may harm him/her.
Truthfully, I have heard so many horrible stories emanating from those who took decisions in anger.
I have heard of a school teacher who beat his student in anger to a coma.
Again, I have heard of a husband who beat his wife to death because she spoke to her wrongly.
These people took decisions in anger and they regretted it. Don’t be a victim.
Sincerely, you can definitely overcome anger, if you purpose within your heart not to take decisions in anger.
You can’t think well when you are angry
Everyone has the tendency to flare up. But the only help you can offer to yourself is not to take any decision when you are angry.
After you have suppressed your anger.
You will be able to think straight to take godly decisions. At the moment of anger, your brain cannot function well.
So, that’s why it is not advisable to take any decision while you are angry. Know this and apply it.
My prayer for you is that anger will not destroy you.
I hope this helps a lot. Let me know in the comment section below.